“Just be yourself!”
I often hear these words of encouragement from well-intentioned people suggesting how others could improve their public speaking. “Just be yourself.”
I always wondered what these words meant. “Just be myself.”
Who else would I be? I can’t be you. I can try to be you, or your neighbour, but I would eventually return to being me. I have no choice but to be me. It isn’t something I can vote on, but how does my being me relate to speaking in public? What if I was shy and usually spoke in quiet, whispery tones and rarely met eyes with others. What does being myself mean and is it helpful in public speaking?
Instead of depending on only my opinion for this answer, I asked the opinions of other speakers and speech coaches. The question was, “What does, ‘Be yourself,’ mean to you? To be or not be oneself, what would one do?”
Here are their answers. (more…)